Misster-Kittys Internal Voice: Santa's Naughty List

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Santa's Naughty List

11 comments:

Maria said...: Hey Kitty... Love the Christmas pics.

But... to get off topic here for a moment what do you think about organ donation? Its been a big hurdle we had to cross when hubby's dad passed away little while ago and he, his brother and his mom decided to donate his organs but yet now they are getting heat from some cousins.

We have received a letter from Transplant Quebec saying that the organs were successfully transplanted and the recipients are doing well. It was a little bit of comfort to receive after the devestation we were faced with. I am thinking they made a good choice. However, now I am doubting it because of the negative effect its having in some of the family members. My mom in law has been celebrating Christmas every year for over 30 years with these relatives and this year they told her that they are not going to have her over. I am thinking its the first year she is without her husband and you do this to her?

In any case, we will take care of her and make sure she is not alone. I really do not know why some people stick their nose into matters that don't concern them.
I want to say something but again, I don't want to say something that would upset them, because if I said anything I am sure it would come out like that.

Sad. Sorry for venting.; December 2, 2008 at 9:58 a.m.
Sean Newbury said...: OK, I want names and I want numbers and addresses.

SHAME ON THEM!

Shame on them for not supporting the wishes of the Wife and immediate Family of this man.

Shame on them for not seeing the incredibly selfless act that they preformed and the countless lives they have saved.

Shame on them for being so selfish and narrow minded that their own person agenda is overshadowing your Husband's family’s courageous decision.

Shame on them for alienating her now, when friends and family are most dear and this year more than any needed.

Shame on them for being so cold and insensitive.

I don’t know their reasons, but honestly they don’t matter.

Shame on them!
Shame on them a thousand times over!
Shame!

The one solace in this is that I know that you and your husband and children will welcome her into your home and while her heart will be heavy and full of pain, knowing that she is surrounded with those that unconditionally lover her will be certainly a comfort…

And you can give her a big old Kitty love hug for me.; December 2, 2008 at 10:33 a.m.
Maria said...: I almost wanted to cry reading that. She is such a good woman and really does not need this... not now.

Their reasons are that they did not want him (their uncle) to be put through any more pain... yeah cause his kids and his wife wanted him to go through additional pain.
Nonsense.

He was legally 'brain dead' and when the ventilator was removed his blood pressure and heart would stop and they would have to re-start it.; December 2, 2008 at 10:43 a.m.
Sean Newbury said...: Jesus... were they raised in a cave? THe man was in no pain... Oddly enough thought THEY are certainly causing a LOT of pain to a great many people now...

Again I say SHAME!

Lets see where they stand if, godforbid, one of them requires a donated organ one day.; December 2, 2008 at 10:53 a.m.
Maria said...: I was thinking the same thing. I sure hope they are not on the other side of that fence one day.

I HOPE EVEN MORE THAN THE PEOPLE THEY ARE WAITING FOR AN ORGAN FROM ARE NOT LIKE THEM!

Decisions like this are so sensitive and so hard to make. So hard.

Thanks for letting me vent!; December 2, 2008 at 11:15 a.m.
Sean Newbury said...: No worries Maria, besides you know I liek to vent too! ;-); December 2, 2008 at 11:33 a.m.
Bob said...: How ignorant are those people? The organs are not harvested while the donor is still alive! And how many recipients have had their lives extended or at the least very the quality of those lives vastly improved, because of the generosity of your family? That speaks for itself.

Your mother-in-law, Hubby and his brother made the absolute best decision. I wish I could help you convince Nonna of that, and give her a Newsguy Bob hug as well. Please try your best to let her know what a wonderful, selfless decision she and the boys made, and give her some extra love at Christmas. She probably knows in her heart that your father-in-law is also watching over her, and endorsing her decision.

I just got a new driver's licence yesterday, because of my recent change of address. And again, without hesitation, I signed the donor card that came with it. The selfish side of me wishes everyone would do that, in case I or a loved one ever needs a donation.; December 2, 2008 at 12:31 p.m.
Maria said...: Thanks Bobby... I keep assuring Nonna that she made the best choice she could have made during that very trying time. I just feel so bad for the way she was treated and excluded from this year's holiday dinner with those family members. As if she gained anything from this.

She lost her husband of 49 years!! and needs all the love and support right now more than ever!

She went to see her priest (she is very religious) and he also confirmed with her that she made the right choice to think of others during such a painful time.

In any case, we have family coming in from Australia during the holidays and will hopefully help her focus on them rather than think about my father-in-law and how he is not here, and make her sad.

Life is hard at times huh? Its impossible to make everyone happy and do what you believe in, all at the same time.
I never really new how hard.

It gave me the chance to speak with my own dad after all this happened so that there are no problems later on. He and my mom both agreed that they would support organ donation. I was so glad to hear that.; December 2, 2008 at 12:42 p.m.
Bob said...: Nonna will still take time to remember Nonno at Christmas -- how can she not? But that's okay. It's part of the grieving process. I'm glad she'll be surrounded by true family members, as in family members who put their own selfish sides in their back pockets, and support her when she needs it most.

My Grandma McIntyre died in 1983, before organ donation was so important (pity that). She had gone in to the hospital for exploratory surgery, and had a stroke on the table. The surgeon also found that she was full of cancer. As if all that wasn't enough, she developed a blood clot in her leg that led to gangrene. Her doctor presented the option of amputation, but couldn't guarantee that she would survive that surgery.
The poor dear never came out of a coma over the next six weeks that she "lived", but we knew she was in pain, because she would moan.
The family refused the surgery, telling the doctor just to keep her as comfortable and pain-free as possible, and let nature or God take its course.
It was not a really difficult decision, because the family made a similar decision about 30 years earlier for her own father, and she was always at peace about that.
My Dad and I talked about it at the time, and have on a few occasions since, and always agree that as painful as it was for us, we made the best decision for Grandma. We also know what the decision will me, should such a situation ever arise again.

May the joy of the Christmas season bring comfort and love to you and your extended family.

Remember, your extended online family is always here for you, too.

Hugs,
Bob; December 2, 2008 at 1:06 p.m.
Maria said...: I have goose bumps.

I know she will remember Nonno --- how could she not?

Last night we put up our Christmas tree and Princess wrapped a GODIVA chocolate bar that my father-in-law loved and put it under the tree addressed "To My Nonno"

When I told her Nonno will not be "here" at Christmas she said she knows that. She will open it and eat it for him.; December 2, 2008 at 1:16 p.m.
Anonymous said...: How incredibly brave and selfless of Nonna to think of others at a time like that. Though I'd never like to be in such a position, I hope I'd be able to make the same decision. She absolutely did the right thing, and as Kitty says, shame on the relatives for being so horrible about it all. Please tell her there are plenty of strangers who applaud her and respect her immensely for what she has done, even if certain family members don't.; December 2, 2008 at 4:24 p.m.

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